I am a gay man living in London, I had been in an on and off volatile relationship for over 5 years and recently noticed odd goings on with my boyfriend when I spent time with him at his flat. The oddness would revolve around him messing around with his computer each time I was there but i didnt think much of it!
This happened when we was intimate or on ocassions when I was by myself. I started getting the feeling that I was being watched and each time I was at his flat I had a ‘hunch’ because he was always fooling around with his pc. I asked him if he had been recording me; he said ‘he had not’ but I was sure he had. There was also strange occurances of people coming and going in the flat below and at early hours each time I was at my boyfriends flat.
About a month ago, my then boyfriend admitted that he had been filming me but denied any involvment in the filming although it was via his pc and claimed it had been remotely accessed.
He didnt even say sorry but said that ‘ i shouldnt be so popular’.
I feel really terrible and hurt by what has happened to me. I reported it to the police whom I do not think will do anything due to lack of evidence, even though he has admitted to doing it.
I feel cheated and I have no idea how many men have seen it.
This is something that seems to be going on now in the gay community. I told one of my friends about what had happened to me and he was in shock because one of his other friends, also gay had suffered an almost identical experience and under the same circumstances. The man who did this to me tricked me to come over to his flat and was playing me and pretending he was still into me but this I now know was only to get me on film to be exposed to other gay men in South London. I am pretty sure he was given money and or drugs to do this to me and all for his own personal gain. For all I know he could be doing this to others.
The Metropolitan police have done nothing with my case to date and have recorded it as a domestic incident . They told me they could not go and arrest him as there was no evidence; clearly this had been thought through by my ex boyfriend and I am also pretty sure there were others in the gay community who he has contacts with who were also involved .
This could have been going on for months without me knowing but there were odd things that indicated unusual behaviour by him and the house he lived in each time I was there and possibly next door neighbours. I contacted a law firm who said to me I could sue him in court and gain an injunction to force him to reveal where the recordings or where they were streamed to. However I do not have the finances to to this. He did admit that it did happen and has never spoken to me or seen me since after knowing each other for over five years, this to me is even more guilt on his side that he indeed was involved .
There has howver been some odd things going on since no longer seeing him, like men contacting me who have seen me from the the street he lives on. I am sure they know something after all he did say I was famous in South London. I am sharing my story as I feel that I need to warn others and this is not just me this could have happened too!